You'll find that as you grow old, you stop bothering to hide the self you've been all along. I aspire to that every day.
-Charles Frazier, Varina
An article and a TedX Talk
People change in stages. They go from not even really considering making a change,
to contemplating making one, to preparing to make the change…and THEN (and only then) do they spring into action. The actual behavior change (like starting to exercise, or going on a diet) is not the first stage of change, but the fourth.
Here’s the long and the short of it: To be successful in a New Year’s Resolution, you need to be in that fourth stage of change. What stage are you in?
(Prochaska and DiClemente)
Chase the work: Purpose over position.
--DeRay Mckesson, "Pod Save the People"
“ Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person. Having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what’s worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.”