An article and a TedX Talk
Why You Should Stop Being So Hard on Yourself
Know Your Inner Saboteurs
People change in stages. They go from not even really considering making a change,
to contemplating making one, to preparing to make the change…and THEN (and only then) do they spring into action. The actual behavior change (like starting to exercise, or going on a diet) is not the first stage of change, but the fourth.
Here’s the long and the short of it: To be successful in a New Year’s Resolution, you need to be in that fourth stage of change. What stage are you in?
(Prochaska and DiClemente)
BY Wislawa Szymborska
It could have happened.
It had to happen.
It happened earlier. Later.
Nearer. Farther off.
It happened, but not to you.
You were saved because you were the first.
You were saved because you were the last.
Alone. With others.
On the right. The left.
Because it was raining. Because of the shade.
Because the day was sunny.
You were in luck -- there was a forest.
You were in luck -- there were no trees.
You were in luck -- a rake, a hook, a beam, a brake,
A jamb, a turn, a quarter-inch, an instant . . .
So you're here? Still dizzy from
another dodge, close shave, reprieve?
One hole in the net and you slipped through?
I couldn't be more shocked or
how your heart pounds inside me.
BY JOHNNY CASH
There’s trouble on the mountain
And the valley’s full of smoke
There’s crying on the mountain
And again the same heart broke.
The lights are on past midnite
The curtains closed all day
There’s trouble on the mountain
The valley people say.
Chase the work: Purpose over position.
--DeRay Mckesson, "Pod Save the People"
“ Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person. Having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what’s worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.”
There is a vitality, a life force,
an energy, a quickening that is translated
through you into action.
And because there is only one you in all time,
this expression is unique.
And if you block it, it will never exist through
any other medium…the world will not have it.
It is not your business
to determine how good it is, nor how valuable,
nor how it compares with other expressions.
It is your business to keep it yours
clearly and directly,
to keep the channel open.
MARTHA GRAHAM, Dance to the Piper
Early in my adult life, as I pondered what career I should pursue, my father, an English teacher and writer, helped me by telling me that the word, "career", means "route". And so, I started on a path that I am still on today. I have spent a decade each in different aspects of my career: elementary school teacher, nonprofit board leader, nonprofit consultant, and now, coach. The through-line to my work has been a connection to people and their learning and I continually draw upon skills and experiences from every decade in my work today. As I work with my coaching clients, I have found that It can be a relief to them to think of their careers as a route or a path. What route are you on?